My ex cheated on me, I gave him a second chance but you can never forget and the relationship always strains under it. In the end I left him.

Lindi

I answered yes to the quetion because my husband did cheat on me. I forgave him and my self for it. i realized that my husband and i both were not happy and it took him cheating on my to open my eyes and his to what we have and almost lost. i was not prepared to give up our marriage sacrifice our childrens happieness because of one infidelity. although i forgave once i will not the second time.

Hippichick

I just found 5 years worth of pictures on our home computer, that my Husband never broke-up with his girlfriend. I told him to pack his stuff and get out! Now the Divorce and custody. I had no idea it was happening right under my nose.....

Michelle

I`ve cheated alot on the girl I loved about 10 times and she kept on takin me back until i guess she got tired and played me cuz she told she was playin me

Julio G.

Well I feel there are variables that could make this decision more difficult than just black or white... I found out on christmas day that my husband stepped out one time. I guess he just wanted to see what it is was like to be Bill Clinton ha ha.. Anyway, we had been together for 11 yrs at the time, and I have been the only lover he had EVER had. We have a young daughter, and she adored her dad. He apologized over and over, and today, we have a new baby boy, he hasn't done or even tried to do over what had happened... We are closer now than even before which I didn't think was possible... Now we are working on year 14. We have been together since we were 21 and 24, and having 6 brothers of my own, I figured it was bound to happen one or another... I honestly feel it hurt him more to see me hurt than anything... I now have learned to forgive him, although I did tell him he would not get a second chance ... EVER... Now as far as once a cheater always a cheater, I can't stand by that statement, because I cheated on a couple of my ex boyfriends, but in almost 14 years of this relationship, I haven't cheated. I suppose it is one of those case by case issues...

Noneya

My husband of 25 years cheated on me with a 24 year old. I was devastated but I gave him a second chance. He cheated again and again. Our children were appalled and devastated at what their father had done, especially since the girl was three years older than our son. I can't believe what my husband did, I trusted him but I will never trust anyone 100% again.

Lainey

Dear Alsolomano...Your welcome.

Cheated on too

Sorry but no,no,no!! been married now for 30years.I've been with him since I was 18,now 47.If he stepped out he better keep a walking. But it's my happiness tah he wants to see even to this day. Still in love. So girls it does happen!!!

Cindy

Maybe depending on whoi it was with and if he said it meant anything. my boyfriend cheated on me with my best friend but after a montyh with her he came running back to me telling me that he still loves me and kept apologising. he hasn't done it since!!

Sophie

Cheating? what's that?

Drew

It really depends on the person and the situation. There are creeps out there who should absolutely be dumped, and then there are people who may have one time fallen into temptation but then regretted it and have since really improved themselves. I know I have been tempted in the past. It is important to keep in mind that be opting to leave the person, you may simply be exchanging one set of problems for another. The grass isn't always greener on the other side, but may be greener where you stand.

Karen

My ex- husband had an affair, the girl involved DELIBERATELY gave me v.d. in the hopes that I'd not have any kids with him as she thought he'd neglect the ones she had with him. She gave it to me whist I was carring my child as she wanted me to have a misscarage. (She told me this after the divorce). He doesn't see the child I have with him as I've got 1 kid and she has 3. He says he'd rather loose 1 than 3, the problem with that is, I've NEVER stopped him seeing the child. An excuse I feel. Twisted people, I don't forgive. Forgiveness is a strength I don't have right now, I know time is a great healer... blah, blah, blah.... but it's hard to forgive such actions, hence my vote being NO WAY!!... For all those who have been hurt to the core, think karma... I do, and that's what keeps me going. I don't need to sink to that level and react.... I belive that we all have karma which follows us all our lives... so cheaters think on!!!

Dee

I found out my ex fella had cheated on me with my mate, I was really hurt but at the end of the day what goes around comes around. I could never have a relationship with him again but were both adult enough about it to still get on and I now understand why it happened which has fortunately made it easier to deal with.

Gemsie

As I have never been married so really I can't do this this with an experience but I have been in common-law relations. I have forgiven the ex's for fooling around but to forget is really hard. But if I were in a long marriage and he were to do this to me I would ask why he did it and then hopefully work out on the problem and if he was not happy then to take a walk.

Barbara

Giving a cheater another chance is simply giving them another chance to cheat on you!!!END OF STORY. Cheaters are addicted to the adreneline of the sneaking around and the rush the get from lying when they get caught. Get WISE all of who have been cheated on.

Deidre