Maureen. I divorced my now ex husband,after forgiving him many infidelities over our ten years of marriage, Why stay with him? you ask! well, we had two wonderful children and I believed in putting up a fight for my relationship and not giving up so easily, But alas! my dear readers, The final blow came when I discovered he had a family elsewhere, and also was having yet another affair with a woman from work.................. So I'm afraid that was the END ...............of my marriage.I am now single and will remain so, As, who can you trust out there reader's??????????.  

My sweet Gina, I know your post was a long time ago, I just joined this site and your post caught my heart.  How are things?  I was a cheater and it was not my husbands fault, I was looking for something.  After many many years of mistakes I realised I was looking for my true self and God, which I have found both now.  I can look back now and some of the reasons I did it was fear of being whole and honest with my spouse, never learning and sharing with him, fear of rejection.  What ever u choose please learn to forgive him as u will suffer if u do not and it was not your mistake, the only mistake is not to forgive.  Learn how to really communicate with your partner, learn to LOVE yourself and God helps allot if u choose his path.  Love Deb

Do you really want to wait and delay your chances of meeting a nicer guy?

As woman, we don't get any younger.  Time is always ticking...

I'm older (and wiser - I hope).  Trust me, once a cheet, always a cheet.

Don't squander your youth and beauty on someone who doesnt deserve you!

Well! well!,Life is not a bowl of cherries,It's what we make it, and being with a partner that cheats is still a "BIG DEAL" as far as I'm concerned, it is not alright to make promises of fideliity, and then go off and "CHEAT" it's "CRUEL & HURTFUL,Are these so called human beings really that emotionally imature, to think that the blinding pain, fractured promises & broken vow's they inflict is going to be forever acceptable, or that they will receive a minor ticking off from the cheated partner, before tea. That special bond is lost forever. The deceit is immense.They have no moral code.Lying to the people you love most is cruel.To dismiss an affair as a minor "blip"could not be further from the nasty, sordid, embarrasing & humiliating truth. 

You're right, but so angry and hostile.

Alas! you are right! also,"Angry", you bet, Why?, You would have to walk in my shoes, as word's can never explain my ...................Anger!!!!!!!!!!!!! Hostile.................. The price some of us pay for being on the receiving end of the dreaded DEED.................. But time will help the healing process I'm sure, first we must release all the negative, Be honest about how hurt we feel, about how angry we feel, about how such an issue does also bring forth our inner hostilities.THEN and only then can we begin to heal and hopefully one day find REAL, honest ? true LOVE again................................ if that's what we want. some do! some don't. I, me, very much want to grab it once again with both hand's. but first I need to let out the anger ?hostility!!!!!!!!!!!!!!,  dear reader, of my weakness's, and not let it turn septic inside. I'm setting myself free, so I can LOVE again.You bet ya!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Don't give up on me yet, There is alway's hope, don't sound so afraid, it's ok! to express your dark side, and get rid of it for good. Don't cling on to it.LET IT OUT..................................... 

There are good men out there.  I know.  I am married to one.  Never cheated and (hopefully) never will.  Don't give up hope.  You will find someone deserving of you.

Thankyou MaryLou, I'm sure you are right.i can wait for the right man to come along!