I caught my husband cheating on me by reading through his emails. I found out he had been in another relationship for over 1 year, and although I could sense something was wrong, I was never able to prove it. He broke his marital contract with me and I will never forgive him for that.

Gina

I guess I'm just insecure because me and my husband just had a baby together, I dont look my best, and I love him so much that I mit give him a second chance depending on the situation. In Gina's situation I agree with her. Another relationship for over a year! I think I would have hit him with a frying pan after getting over the shock:) You'll fing a better one everything happens for a reason.

Christine

I would not waste a good frying pan on him a leperd does'nt change his spots.

Bridget

I gave my husband a second chance, he begged me to come back and I did. I caught him again and I am going through a divorce now. I have never broken my marriage vows and I expected my spouse not to either. HE will have to live with his conscienous (if he has one) as mine is clear. I will be much better off without the emotional abuse!

Cathy

About six months ago I caught my husband in an affair with someone from work and 2 months after that I found out he had had a long distance "friendship" over the phone for 3 years. We just had our third child around the time I discovered his infidelity. If you would of asked me prior to this if I would leave - my answer would of been a definte yes. But now that I am going through it I look at my kids and I felt I need to give him another chance. Six months later it is difficult and not an easy task. He seems to be doing all the right things now. Is it worth it... well I guess it is to early to tell. But at least I know now that I am giving my all and if he chooses otherwise then in the end he will be in the loss. I can live with myself cause I have a clean concious and can truly say I gave it a try. Cathy I feel for you and respect your decison to give him a chance the first time and respect your decision to leave after you found out that he continued his deceitful ways.

Deana

There is no way i would give him a second chance i dont care how long weve been married how many kids we have. i dont want to wait on him every night wondering was he reallly ata work or was he screwing around with another female

Anonymous

I have kids and to tell you the truth I wouldnt still be here if it wasnt for them. Through every pregnancy I have found out that he was cheated. Each time I forgave but not forgotten. After each episode he behaves like a new man, like he knows that he f##ked up and I want to leave him. My mother went through the same thing when I was young. After many years of it she finally gave up. She left. After she did she said that she was glad that she did. She said that she doesnt have to worry about what he was doing or doing it with. I love my husband but after being hurt so many times, I have given up. I realized about a year ago that I love him but I am not in-love with him. I just tell myself each day that I stay because of the kids. I love them and would do anything for them. Even if it means being alone in this relationship. I know that each time that he has done this it was never my fault. I know that I am very worthy of a mans love. So I dont blame myself. I keep telling myself that when the time is right I will leave. I will...we all do. Sooner or later we all do.

Given up

Wait till it happens to you!! no second chances

Friendlyed

A cheater is a cheater.....don't believe him when he says he's sorry and it won't happen again.

Been There.....

Once a cheat, always a cheat. If you stay in a relationship with a cheat, expect it to happen again (and again).

Wiccanscot2gen

Forgiving is the easy part, forgetting is another matter entirely.

Been There!

I dont know because if i was deeply in love maybe..i rather for get my dog back he was my best friend he die 1/17/01 i still miss him

Sapphie_Darla

I don't know maybe if we have been talking for a long time and we have been talking for a while

Sylvia Speed

I use the analogy of crossing the line. Once you cross it then it is criss crossed. No turning back! So always think before you act. Once you act you can't take it back!

Cher

I was lucky, I caught him in the beginning stages of the romance nothing pysical had happened, but, it was getting there fast. I was torn whether to stay or to go. I wanted to give my marriage a chance, I deserved to be happy, so I took control. I told the little tramp to stay the "F" away from my husband. She was a receptionist bent on enticing all the guy's at work. It was actually kinda funny how I told her, I called her from my hubby's cell phone right in front of him. My sister asked "Why go after the girl too?" Well, it takes two and women of all people should respect another woman's marriage. I can't stand it when people say it's not the girls fault. IT's both their faults for not controlling themselves and rising above what they know is wrong. It took me a whole day to find out EVERY thing, if we're going to deal with it, deal with it all; leave nothing to pop up in the future. My husband has been front and center ever since. I know what I want from my marriage; I gave up too much before the incident to let something like this spoil the family we worked so hard to achieve. Take control ladies, Know your mind and what you want and don't demand anything less! I deserved better than that and I told him so. He has worked very hard to regain my love and trust. We're happy still a year and a half later and we are trying to have a baby. Honestly, God played a huge roll in saving our marriage without him we would have fallen apart and had no strength to build on. He brought us together and is keeping us together. P.S. The girl ended up losing her job after the company found out she was trying to start a sexual harrassment lawsuit. She got another job about 200 miles away and broke her leg about a month later. Karma I guess.

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