HI, CAN SOMONE PLEASE GIVE ME SOME CLARITY? I HAVE BEEN WITH MY COMPANY FOR 10 YEARS AND NEVER HAD PROBLEMS WITH MY JOB ,CO WORKERS ,OR SUPERVISIORS ,ETC I am actually good at what I do[teach kids with behavioral & psychological issues etc, we got a new boss 2 years ago and since Sept he is making me miserable, depressed,yelling at me targeting me you name it,and  the better I do with my job performance and the more I TRY THE MORE HE COMES AFTER ME,AS YOU CAN SEE MY NERVES ARE SO BAD I CANT TYPE RIGHT, Everyone sees it ,he does it in front of all my co workers and my students who hate him for it,I know it's a personal attack ,due to my empathic abilities I get so much bad energy from him it's draining me and sucking the life out of me , I GET HOME I SHUT DOWN FROM MY FAMILY AND ISOLATE,I FEEL LIKE I am in  a bad movie But I WOULD APPRECIATE ANY FEED BACK AND WOULD LIKE TO SEE IF ANYONE FEELS OR THINK THE WAY I AM THINKING why HE'S antagonizing me, and making me hate a job I truely love ,Thank You, VADA

Report this moron - take him to court - whatever just don't stand for this no more..... good luck

Hide a hidden camera - tape him as proof for court should you need it, start documenting his episodes and his erotic uncalled for behaviour.  Start thinking back and documenting all his outbursts and this is uncalled for harrassment, good luck with witnesses.   Remember it is criminal behaviour to harass anyone!

Light a 24 hour white candle, pray and talk to the candle for protection, continue lighting candles daily.

If you know any aboriginal people, get some smudge to clear the negative energy from your classroom.   Talk to an aboriginal elder and going into a sweat and make the offerings he asks you to for protection.

 Continue to pray and get people to pray for you, I will also pray for you.

 

Dear Vada, Please do not let your boss take over your life. You need to be able to protect yourself from this form of negative energy. Try and imagine a protective  bubble around you any time he is near you.ou 

 His behaviour must be obvious to other people who you work with. It sounds as though he has issues which are affecting him and he is taking them out on you for whatever reason. It could even be professional jealousy.  There must be procedures in your workplace for dealing with this kind of bullying and that is what it is.Make it your business to find out how you can get help at work and if there are no channels at work, then your employers need to think about providing such resources. There may be places outside work where you can go for independent advice. You must try and not be passive.  You must try and turn your fear and unhappiness into positive, direct action.You can change things.Anything is possible. You have 10 years experience of a job you love and are good at. You are an independent woman with a family; no one can make you feel this way unless you allow them.You are entitled to tell someone that their behaviour is unacceptable and unreasonable .What would you advise to one of the young people you work with if they found themselves in a situation similar to yours?

Please let me know how things go for you . Believe in your self. The elizabethan poet John Donne wrote "Be thine own palace or the world's thy jail". Start treating yourself like a palace.Tell yourself that you do not deserve to be treated this way.You are worth so much more.

Hannie

 

Hello "Vada" I am so sorry to know that this person has brought so much negativity in your life. It sounds like he has made a real effort to single you out and make your life hell. The worst thing about bullies, and I do believe he fits the term perfectly, is that they keep beating you down until eventually you wonder if 1) they are right about you, and 2) you have no self-esteem left. One of the worst things I see here is that you have isolated yourself from your family. This is the worst thing you can do.

I would certainly recommend what the earlier post said about beginning to document each and every incident. Recording him is also a good idea as long as this is legal. I know in some places it is not. Try also to document as many earlier issues as you can. There must be someone close to you, a friend or family member whom you can confide in as well. This will help give you courage and confidence that you need.

No one should have to work in such an environment. Consult an employment attorney to find out what your rights are. I must tell you that when I was 20, I was sexually harrassed in a job I had, but did not have the courage to stand up for myself then. I truly regret it because that man was a true pig to take advantage of my inexperience and youth. I have also dealt with bullies at work and I truly recommend that you no longer allow this situation to continue. It will eventually change the person that you are.

God Bless you and please keep us updated as to your progress.

Dear Vada,

I understand I went through this myself.  Firstly, you must protect yourself because at this point it is he said she said.  I would before pursuing any other options get (if you don't have) a small but advanced voice controlled recorded for these occassions.  Evidence is always key.  He (this creep) obviously wants you to leave for whatever reasons.  Also until you have enough evidence I would suggest to you to meditate and try to focus.  The more horrible he gets the calmer you should get (I know this is not easy) but you take back control this way and it will show everyone what a nut case he is.  He is trying to engage you so that you look incompetent.  There must also be an organization or board of some kind that you can get advice from (especially with evidence!)  And lastly, call upon your Guardian Angels to guide and protect you.

All the best,

Valerie