Hello all. I'm just wondering what some thoughts were about soulmates... do you believe there is a particular individual that we are each destined to be with? Or do you believe there can be more than one soulmate in a lifetime?

I did not believe in the concept of twin flams or soulmates until I met a man this last June.  When we met it was over the Internet and it was like nothing I had ever experienced.... a connection that I cannot explain nor describe... almost as if we had been old friends all of our lives.  I did not mention to him how I felt at first because I assumed it was one-sided... he brought it up and we talked about it and soon thereafter we both fell deeply in love.  It's been several months, and he monopolizes my thoughts even though we live far away from one another and have actually only physically met once.  I did some research on the Internet and feel at this point that we are in fact soulmates... I cannot imagine sharing what we share with anyone else ever again after having met him.  Although our future is unclear and our circumstances are less than perfect, I know somehow that we are connected and meant to be together regardless of our not having all of the answers right now.

I have no doubt about soul-mates.  They exist!  I married mine.  There were things we shared (I use the past tense because he has passed on) that only genuine soul-mates can.  Our understanding went so deeply, we never fought, argued, or raise our voices in anger (but we did disagree sometimes.)  I believe that when I take the Great Journey, he will be there to greet me and if we are to have other incarnations, we will find each other through each one.

I also believe that my children are a type of soul-mate to each other and myself.  My own sister is one of my soul-mates, although we are not twins, in fact, we are often like night and day.  I also have one dear friend that has been closer than blood kin.  We both feel as if we have known each other through many lifetimes.

 I think one of the biggest misconceptions about soul-mates is that there can only be one.  With this thinking, how many people do we over-look and/or take for granted? 

 

 

I don't believe that there is one person out there that we are destined to be with forever. Soulmates are made not born. And I think that people who are serioulsly convincing themselves that souldmates are real is just giving up on wat's real and wat's not. You know thinking "Oh I don't have a boyfriend, ok. Well that's fine, I have a soulmate out there somewhere." It's kinda pathetic.

soulmates thats a big word right there..........i believe there is someone for everyone............if its your soulmate or not...........and if they end up being the one you know why

MeaganCullen:

I don't believe that there is one person out there that we are destined to be with forever. Soulmates are made not born. And I think that people who are serioulsly convincing themselves that souldmates are real is just giving up on wat's real and wat's not.

Soul-mates made??? Hmmm, does anyone have a recipe?  Just kidding, but really, just because one has never, ever beheld the ocean does not mean it does not exist.  If one chooses to settle for a puddle, rather than hold out for the sea, the illusion is in the believing that the puddle is as good as it gets.  For anyone that chooses this path, I feel deep sorrow for all they may miss out on in this life. 

MeaganCullen:

You know thinking "Oh I don't have a boyfriend, ok. Well that's fine, I have a soulmate out there somewhere." It's kinda pathetic.

Passing judgement on others as "pathetic" seem harsh.  Is settling less pathetic?

Soul-mates does not mean, though, that we can take one another for granted, or that we do not work to keep the fires from becoming cold embers.  For anyone that walks with a soul-mate, I am assured they will attest to the fact that the fires burn hotter, higher, and brighter than they ever imagined.  This is worth waiting for, working towards, and discovering.  It is deplorable, pitiful, and pathetic to give up.

 

 

if you believe in reincarnation, past lives then you have to believe in soulmates. i mean soulmates are people you bump into as you go thru many different lives. blast from the past or future - if u buy parallel universe.

soulmate = intense connection

that connection could be good or bad.

 and even though this is a relationship forum, i dont think soulmates are just romantic mates. they could by ur sibling, best friend, child. 

with anyone that you have an intense reaction could possibly be someone from the past. could be an abuser coming back to heal. could be a sibling who had been a lover before.

that is the only way i can explain the intense connection i have with my ex, my friends and my daughter. 

I don't think so either, but I wish that there was one for me also

but if there so happens 2 be a soulmate, than finaly, I will know that, there really are soulmates.

But for right now I think I'll just wait

Well if there really is a soulmate, out there for everyone,

then I hope that everyone is really happy with he or she.

But than again you sometimes have 2 go looking for them.

The issue of Soulmate is something which I believe is tantamout to what we want to believe. For I think it's the way I was brought up to conceive such facts, which are not proven beyond all reasonable. As a Psychologist, I have base my truth on facts, not emotions nor Social perception which are not valid. That on the one hand is what orthodox Religious scientist will agree with the Love Psychologist. There is a drive, and in as much as such drive to seek identify with inner realities of mutual-ness, then Soul-Mate is not a complete clear-cut of the discovery of our lover or love life. Rather is is the identification and realities of those who really care about us irrespective of who they are. As much as they affect our lives, then whether they be our lovers vis-a-vis, it doesnt matter, what does matter is how our relationship are, and the inner-spiritual connections it arises.

There ARE particular people out there for everyone! Some may have more than one. I did. I met mine when I was in my late teens. However, we had the typical story...we met, he moved away and we lost contact. I tried to find him again but was way too late. I found out he died in '05. I went to a psychic and she told me that I had two soulmates. She also said that most people have only one. I haven't found the second one yet but just know that there is a person out there for you. Maybe even two :-) May I suggest reading this book: Soulmates by Richard Webster. It goes into more details about soulmates and even touches on Past Lives. Not sure how you feel about that, but give it a read. Hopefully this will help :-)

Hi Java_junkie418

 Soulmates are not well understood and many only have an understanding as it is shown through movies or books.  It is my understanding that we are drawn towards souls with whom our own finds familiarity.  It is that feeling that we 'click' with another person.  That person can be male or female and doesn't necessarily mean 'true love' but it can mean an almost instant deep affection or (if the other person isn't aware of you yet) being deeply affected by a person's energy.   I believe our souls revolve around eachother and sometimes we notice the familiarity so we respond to it.  Then it feels as if we've known someone forever and that may not be far off the mark. lol

I have been with my husband for 20 years, since we were 17, and married for 12 of them.  I knew he was a soumate to me and have been very content with him....I continue to be, even.  I didn't think much on having more than one soulmate until I had an experience that stunned me physically for 2 weeks until I got a hold of myself.   I listened to a man speak and saw his face and was listening to some things he said.  It felt like I was both in love with him and devestated by loss at the same time.  I really struggled with that (and actually still am only on a lesser level of intensity) feeling since I am in love with my hubby.  It never occurred to me that my soul could have been so connected with another person than him and I am not really a 'love at first sight' kind of gal.   Even so with all of the feelings out there I am still very much connected to my hubby.  I am so aware of this other man that I actually avoid him.  I don't know his thoughts and although I'm dying to know if the connection is mutual I will not ask.  I have a good thing here.....not willing to screw it up regardless of how passionately I feel for someone else.  Just some words for thought for those of you with similar situations :)

From what I have grown to understand is for those that believe in past lives and reincarnation, which I very much do..soulmates are those that meet in every lifetime with a lessons to teach the other, and until such time comes that you have learned everything that you are supposed to learn you will continue to meet in every lifetime..these soulmates are usually in a different relation to one another in each lifetime-as in a lover in the past is now a brother or a freind in this time frame..it all depends on what lessons you still have to learn as to how you are meant to relate in this time and in the future..do i personally feel that people have more than one soulmate-perhaps..I know i have already met one believe me you will definitely know because no matter what trials and tribulations you experience with that person, no matter how much distance you may try to put between you if you are connected it is an unbreakable bond..you will always be drawn back to them..and the more that you try to fight that the worse you feel..in our lives we are supposed to learn and accomplish certain things and certain people, events, and time frames are all important to our destinies- if it is meant to be it will be

Well, I know there are soulmates. I met one of mine and the connection was something unlike any experience I have ever had before or since.

We have either shared past lives or were destined to join in this one. I can only tell you that if you meet yours there will never be a doubt in

your mind that soul mates exist ever again. The intensity of the mental connection is too hard to even describe. The joy is a gift you will

never forget.

I, too, believe that there are more than one soul mates you'll meet in your life.  The relationship may not necessarily be romantic.  I've met at least a couple of my soul mates so far... a sister and a friend. 

It's interesting to note that many of you mention the intense connection felt when you met your soul mate.  I'd like to believe that we all feel deeper connection with people we knew from the past (past lives).  The very 1st sign is definitely familiarity.  I'm always at ease and feel extremely comfortable with them upon the 1st meeting.   I've also met some and not really had the opportunity to spend more time with them.  It's almost immediate that I'd start to miss them right away... as if I'd waited so long to see you and yet we're parting ways.