Relationships

in love or is it lust

jade — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 18:07:47 GMT

i'm dating a guy that i meant 5 weeks ago. But i feel bad because he told me that he loved me and i said it back but not really there yet. then there this guy on my sports team and i really like him and i told him that i liked him and he said that he likes this girl on my team and i asked him does he think we will be more than friends and he said that isnt impossible what should i do

in love or is it lust

jade — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 18:07:41 GMT

Letting Go

Mona — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 23:42:31 GMT

I don't even know why I'm posting this. I guess because I am hurt and I don't want to talk to any of my friends who are familiar with the situation. My love. The dude I've loved since forever... I've had to let go of. I had no choice. I'm older now. I see clearer and I have standards. I'm with someone that I don't want to be with and after years of being indecisive I asked him to move out. Because I know I don't love him. He was a place holder for a dream that I knew would more than likely not come to realization. It has to end. I am starting from scratch. It's scary, lonely, exhilarating and motivating all at the same time. Most of all though my heart is broken. Broken. I never really expected us to be together but to lose him as a friend and everything else? Damn. I feel stupid because I knew I would lose him. I was being greedy and childish. Just stupid. I refuse to cry because I knew better. But damn ya'll. It's over.

LIVE LOVE LAUGH AND DANCE LIKE NOBODY'S WATCHING

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learnig some thing bad and not knowing wat to do

cookieakababygu — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 19:28:12 GMT

how do you give every thing to some one not careing if your ok?

just to make them safe and not knowing you would fall for him it was just to get away!

then you dreamed one day some thing would go wrong.

then to wake up one day and it was to late know you sitting here still wasting you time.

to only end alone scared and hopeless.

Soulmates & your thoughts

java_junkie418 — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 15:54:07 GMT

Hello all. I'm just wondering what some thoughts were about soulmates... do you believe there is a particular individual that we are each destined to be with? Or do you believe there can be more than one soulmate in a lifetime?

Love

Smiley_Ox — Wed, 27 May 2009 00:14:02 GMT

Do You Know When Someone Loves You, Or Do You Trust Them when They Say They Do?

This isn't a "normal" situation what is normal

MinesLozzy — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 02:04:43 GMT

I will try to keep this brief but after reading one of the other posts on here felt obliged to put what is happening to me. I have been very hard on myself about it but I will let you be the judge of that and if anyone can shed any light on the situation that would be great because it has my head thumping hard.

Will try to be brief. Four and half years ago, my partner of 10 years who I met online, introduced new thoughts into our relationship, new ways of thinking, basically wanting to experiment sexually with other couples etc or trying out his fantasies. He did this through the internet chatting to women, couples online and I was totally gobsmacked. I came home one Valentines Day thinking I had a nice present to find he had auctioned me on a website to the fella who basically gave the best caption I guess. Anyway because of these introductions etc into our life, and I may add a one year old child, I felt our relationship must be over and started an affair, which he knew about, I have never done anything like it before but I sought from this relationship what I wasn't getting at home. Four years on, the whole lot fell apart, my lover if I can call him that has not lied to me about his relationships with other women, but has now fallen for a 28 year old girl and tried to finish my relationship with him but continues to ring me every day and my partner that I live with has said he is moving out. He has been with someone for 2 years but finished it last week. Its a complete mess, we both messed up, the internet is a dangerous place for relationships. I love two men, been stupid, been used but am still in love with two men. My partner who I lived with has turned everything on me saying its my fault but obviously the lifestyle he wanted us to have backfired on him. I am left in turmoil and basically see it as my own fault, but do feel that I was pushed into it, liked what I had and had my cake and eat it so to speak. In reality I am hurting badly, hurt by two men I have shown my love to and given myself too. Both of whom now don't seem to want to leave me alone. Why I don't know. But this is the result of not doing something about my own relationship some four years ago and the hurt and pain that arose from the introduction of stuff of the internet, like dating sites etc to what I thought was a one to one relationship and the start of my new family

Rainy Day

missdina — Mon, 04 May 2009 15:47:23 GMT

I'm moving on from a very bad, unhealthy relationship. I work with the guy (of course) but I was smart enough to take a job in another builiding so I don't see him.

I've been praying to my Higher Power and taking care of myself. Loving myself. I had a great weekend; I was alone but was taking care of my house and my garden. I was very spirituality connected.

I come back to work and in an innocent conversation, my friend mentions that my ex is model for her photo shoot for a biker calender. (He's really handsome.) At first I was like, why me? And was projecting all of this stuff onto it (ie. he thinks he's the man, he probably screwed all the models in the shoot..) But then I stopped and realized I was jealous that he was moving on, too. I still love him and want him to be happy. I hope everything works out for him.

My question is: Why does Life do that? Why couldn't I just enjoy my day without hearing about him? Is it a test? I prayed to Goddess to help me remove my pain and find my true love. I try to let go... but then the Goddess or Life reminds me that I still have this pain to deal with...

Any suggestions?

HELP!!!!!wanting opinions!!!!

Jamie Hogner — Sun, 26 Apr 2009 09:36:03 GMT

Some of you have already heard about this but its really confusing me almost everyone i know tells me they think me and this guy i met a year ago are meant to be or would be a great couple or he really loves me and we aresomehow a movie cliche. It doesnt feel that way, but who knows.

When we were in highschool he told me if anything happened to me he would care (he never says exactly how he feels who does that) at the time i really didnt give a damn about him but then i let myself, b/c he made me feel like *** when that came out of his mouth i just felt bad. idk y but i did. we became great friends like i shared everything with him and he would tell me everything would be okay.

well we ended up at the same college where things got wierd i started to notice when he asked me what type of guy i liked i told him i thought emo guys were hott well he got eyeliner and wore it and told me he wore it for me. i was slightly flattered but slightly creeped. anyway, then he bought me a great b-day present when he totally didnt have to he actually put thought into it and all i gave him was $20 for his b-day.

he keeps doing little things like that. then i said something nice about a guy he was all like he is probably a douche bag. he would say that if i said anything nice period. then he tried to tell me what i could and couldnt do. that went over not so well. i smoked i drank i partied my ass off and stopped going to class thus proving my point and pissing him off. lol :)

then not too long ago he was sitting on the couch with me leaned over and was like you know candise says im a good kisser and i was like good for you. then the other day i came to tell him i am moving to oregon and what not and that i wont be talking to him as much. well i walked over to these guys and started talking and he really walks over and grabbs my hand like he was claiming his territory or something i thought awww...then i was kinda ticked b/c he doesnt own me hello. so i hurt him but to make sure he knew we were still okay i kissed his cheek b4 i left. he looked pleased with himself till i yelled lipgloss. then he was all like whore and i laughed and walked away glanced back to see him grinning and watching me scanter away.

what do you think does he like me or what?

Find Love When Your Not Looking For It!

kimmers — Mon, 13 Apr 2009 22:50:56 GMT

hey everyone. I just had to post about my new boyfriend and myself because we were not looking for anyone when we met and fell head over heals for eachother. I love him so much and I want to continue on that path. Does anyone on here believe that you can fall for someone with out even thinking it could or would happen?

let me know I am curious to find out some answers from everyone.

soulmates

black star — Sun, 29 Mar 2009 01:07:02 GMT

ive never met my soulmate yet but i do know somone who has they fite and argue just like any normal couple but the differance is the love they have for each other you can see it

feel it even and when they talk about each other i think thats wot iwant true love that runs deep so deep that its felt in the room

maybe ill never meet my soul mate due to circumstances

but i do hope i just dont settle for anyone coz its better then being alone

Any psychic guidance for me?

NoCoBigDog — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 18:24:15 GMT

I am a man that has been in a same-sex relationship for ten years. In November my partner and I invited a "friend" to stay with us for a week. At the end of that week, my partner disclosed that he thought that this friend and he are soul-mates. My partner left me to be with this man. Now, I find out that my partner was depressed from being out of work and that this friend used some pretty significant psychological manipulation to gain the trust and take his heart from me. I am wondering if there is anyone that can predict for me if my partner will come back to me? Will he finally see the real situation and want to come back home? I am devastated and lost at this point. Please help with any advice or guidance.

Thank you all!

please can any one help

dawn — Thu, 13 Nov 2008 18:50:30 GMT

hi can someone help me please, im torn between two lovers i have been seeing a virgo male for the past 2 years who i love dearly but he lives with some one, am i wasting my time waiting for him? will he leave hes girlfriend? there is another man friend i have whos a capricorn who wants me to have a relationship with him but im co confused, shall i forget them both and move on? im going to be a nan soon and i want some one to share that with. all i want is to settle down. please hlp me thank you !

Can anyone help Thank you

hutchiso — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 12:18:16 GMT

Normally with my friends, I can help them, with the guidance of my Angel (Angels)

I can't help myself, because I am closing down.......

The situation is this,, Husband of 24 years denies any affairs, only chatting on line and having fun ---was a mistake- amusement only.

I have a sick feeling in the pit of my stomach, c/b because I am traumatized or just thinking the worse.

Please someone can you see through the truth or lies?

God Bless you

Pam

need help

patricia — Tue, 01 Apr 2008 20:30:03 GMT

hi everyone

ok heres the deal...i met this really nice romantice guy. he said he would only be here for a week and than the company had to go to indiana to do another job. ok long story short he quit his job has been talking about moving here to akron currently he is in his home town in TN well one night i dont know why but i just kinda flipped out on him over ther phone, i think i was upset because he said it would be longer than two months if at all when he would be back.long story short, we dont talk anymore but lately people have been asking me if he is back up here....i thought i seen him today...tried to call his number has been changed and i am soooo twisted i dont know if im coming or going!!!!!! I really wish i hadnt flipped out like that...i really like this guy and dont know how to get him out of my thoughts...and he is in my dreams all of the time!!! Any suggestions as to what this could mean or how to get him out of my mind??? Oh yeah and the weirdest part is that I have had three premonitions that i get this knock on my door and when i go to open it he is standing there!!! and my sisters and best friend have all had a dream that he was back wtf!! I need help

Snowflake

Help to move on...

kelly_marie — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 22:57:07 GMT

Hi everyone, its my first time writing here but i would like to express what im feeling to others out there and ask for mutual support through this. I was going out with my boyfrind for 1 1/2yrs before he put an end to our relationship saying he wanted space to go through his divorce. Understandibly I gave him the support he needed but he said he doesnt need my support because this is his problem, i dont understand? Saying this pushed me away even more. We both decided at this time of his life it would be best to go our seperate ways, meaning we both had to move out from the flat we were sharing and find somewhere else to live. Ive now settled in my own house, but the thing is i have never felt so alone in my life. I mean dont get me wrong ive my family and friends around to support me but having love and affection in that way then have it taken away, it hurts like hell !

The relationship for me was love at first sight and i knew it was him i wanted to spend the rest of my life with, i honestly thought that we had a future together. Hes also told me that he has never loved anyone as much as me before and he also wanted to settle down with me too. It was a dream come true finding someone to love me for who i am and who wanted the same as i did. Some people may say im too young (being 22yrs) saying this and that i have my whole life ahead of me, but uncontrolably i cant help the way i feel about this person.

The moral of the story being; my so called boyfrind saying he wanted space to go through his divorce, descretely got back together with his ex-girlfriend (wasnt so descrete when i found out) who apparently he still has strong feelings for. Hes now saying that he can see a future together with her. Im so angry and hurt but im still desperately hooked up on this guy. I love him so much its hard to let go and move on with my life. How can I? To make things harder, hes saying he still wants to meet up as friends and do things together. In a way i want to be only because im still holding on that we might just get back together, im so confused now i dont know what to do? Can anyone shed any light on the situation and help me through this time of need?

Out of this whole situation what i really want to know is, what have i done wrong for my boyfriend of 1 1/2yrs to go back with his ex-girlfriend of who he only dated for 1 month?

Thankyou for listening and taking your time to read through, any help will be grately appriciated x x x

Trust

Jen — Wed, 14 May 2008 08:53:34 GMT

Is it possible to initially not trust someone and they somehow grow on you and trust comes with time? Or do you believe that if there is no trust from the get-go, there never will be?

Need input

Jen — Fri, 09 May 2008 08:23:24 GMT

Do you think a relationship can still grow even if it started on lack of trust, financial problems and her getting pregnant immediately? I have a friend who wanted my advice. He was married, she got pregnant, lost their house due to nonpayment of the mortgage, moved in with his parents for 2 years, then every time he tried to leave - she knew he was Catholic - birth control issues - she got pregnant. They have been together 12 years, still having financial issues with 4 kids...same level of commitment today as when they met. Incidentally, she cheats on him. My friend asked, "What do I do?" My initial thought - GET OUT! RUN!! But that's me - I don't play games, don't believe in them, vehemently opposed to adultery. He is trying to "make it work." What do you think? What would any of you do in the same situation?

H~O~P~E

dianarasta — Tue, 29 Apr 2008 13:31:05 GMT

It began 15 yrs ago on May 3, 1993. My eyes met his and I knew in an instant I was "in trouble". I even turned to my girlfriend and said "oh oh~ I'm in trouble". She asked what I ment. I pointed to him, Shane, & smiled. We went home together that day, & it lasted 14 1/2 yrs. On Dec 3, 2007 he left for work in another town a 3 hour drive away. He would spend the week working and come back home for the weekends. That weekend it was poor weather, gas prices high, so we deceided he best stay the weekend & come home the fallowing weekend as Christmas was soon. He did not call all week. Finely on Friday, the day he was to be coming back home, he called. He met another women. And only 5 weeks later he married her. I have never seen him or spoken to him since. He just turned his back & abadon me. To go into detail of how much I have been there for him all these yrs. would be pointless. He is a funtioning alcoholic. I do not drink but socialy. He would sit on the internet & look at porno while I was sleeping. I found out about many women in the past few yrs. he has been with. The women he married is also an alcoholic, & works in a bar. She has a chest that cost over five thousand dollors. She looks like the women he use to lust over on the internet. He told friends she is just like a "play boy bunny" Tall blond with huge bought boobs. I can not seem to move forwerd. He is happy & I am totaly misserable. I can not stop thinking of him & her together happy. I cry all the time. This is NOT what I wanted to be going through at this point in my life. I am just 62 April 14th. I do not want to spend my last few yrs here being unhappy over a lost love who could do this to me so easly, just turn walk away & never look back. I thank the universe for my family as they are the ones that have saved me from myself. If not for them I may not be writing this now. How do i move on with out spending yr.s recovering? I do not seem to meet men that are interested in me, NONE! I have been told for many yrs I look much younger then my yrs. (45 yrs) but still no man seems interested. I guess it is my "vibe" I am putting off. Hurt, disapointed, no trust, desperate, old~~~~ not sure what it is. I just know I am spending a lot of time alone~ALL ONE. Even when he was here I spent all my time alone. I am left quite broken by this relationships demise. It was not expected. I feel I was blind sided by a pair of big boobs. Now my heart is full of empty holes. Will I ever heal from this heart ache? Will I ever meet a man that can love/like me & want a realtionship with me? Will I ever see Shane again? I am searching for some hope, some sunshine . Much respect to all of you that stoped & took the time to read about my "stuff" Blessings!

Confused

luvergurl4u — Thu, 03 Apr 2008 11:24:16 GMT

Several years ago my fiance {charlie} died and I had given up on meetin anyone else, but I eventually did. Actually I met two someone's who became very special to me. But there was somethin strange at work here, because both has similarities to my fiance.

One had the same hair, eyes, stubborness we were ment to be and could purr like him. Also I met his mom on the phone and he had the same first name and the same age as my fiance would have been if he lived. I also met bother of them on chat lines and hit it off from the start. The other one had the same name as Charlie used when I first met him. Then he told me the same thing word for word as charlie did not long before he died, "Ya are goin to marry me ya just don't know it yet." Also he sounds kind of like him and has a little pet named Charlie.

See there are little things all the time that happen that are weird, like a ring I bought is the second man's birthstone and I didn't realize it til after. I contacted a psychic and she said it was just a matter of choosin which one that Charlie had wanted me to move on it seemed. So, I chose the second man and we have talked for almost a year this month. But, we have had our ups and downs and he said he wants me and all and will move here to be with me.

But, now he's started a college course and workin on savin money and such and seems like he's pullin away from me. then out of the blue last wednesday was the last time we talked on the phone. I have sent him emails and called him and left messages and not one reply. But I know he's been on line cause one day he sent me a short message sayin he can't wait to come play with my long hair. I have a feelin somethin is wrong, maybe he is with someone new or somethin.

What should I do, I'm so confused,cause he asked me for a chance and I gave him one and he said in his heart I am already his wife. But lately all I want to do is cry and I'm so down, Please someone tell me what I should do, I'm thinkin maybe I should just give up but I do love him so much. I'm just tired of hurtin, I feel like men hang around me til someone better comes along.

Thanks for any input ya might have on this matter I appreciate it alot.

unnoticed

jasmine — Mon, 17 Mar 2008 21:20:43 GMT

ther's this boy who is really cute to me , i seem to see him looking at me sometimes as i pass him, he's like the perfect boy for me but i dont know what to do, he hangs in a different crowd, it seems he's quiet like me. I dont know if he likes me or think im pretty, or if he doesnt notice me at all. I dont even know if he has a girlfriend or if im his type. can u please tell me wat to do

Major confussion...help please

Emily — Sun, 23 Mar 2008 02:23:12 GMT

Peace Everyone!

I need some good advice or at least a kick in the pants...

A couple years ago I had returned to an old job and met this fellow as a customer. We got along well and had a fairly casual customer/manager relationship. He would only deal with me and would then stay for at least an hour to talk about unrelated things. I leave the store to go back to another job and we keep in touch but not very often. I had actually forgotten about him until October when he messaged me. We hooked up and although we tried not to the spark was there and the dates got a little "heated"

However, during the holidays my exboyfriend had gotten into my accounts and mailed him a bunch of trash about me. Now the new fellow did not react to it he did say he was flirty and that I was too old, there is an age difference. I was really hurt and overreacted and deleted new guy from my pages and suspended my email. I was devestated. We had not talked since December and I did manage to catch new guy on msn and asked if I could text or email and he was very non commital saying "if I like" so I thought "kiss my bottom" with that response. Funny thing is when he works day shift we will sometimes drive past each other and he is right up with the hand waving. I started to wave back but nothing else. Oh, he did say he tried to mail me after the invasion but the messages were sent back so he thought he was blocked. Anyways, on friday I open my mail to find a request to join a site he his on. I just find it strange after all the silence he sends a friend request and as I join he gifted me...nothing special but hey whatever.

I am confused though. I mean after all this silence now he decides to contact me. I don't know if I am being stubborn by not contacting him. Honestly, I am scared that he will not respond if I do message him. I had really wanted this to work out and to move slowly but the sparks just flew. Now with the contact I do not want to assume anything but then HE contacted me again and took the chance that it would go through and he was not blocked. I don't know. I don't want things to mess up but I do not know how to tread. Part of me says just let it go and things will work themselves out when the time is right but this has been a hard few months and I though or think that whent the time is right this will fall into place. Any advice folks....it is GREATLY APPRECIATED. THANKS!

Peace all.

im lost and hurting

dmadma1121 — Wed, 30 May 2007 00:25:48 GMT

hey everyone. i have been with my husband for 5 years and we have been married for 2 1/2 years. we have two children together. now all of a suden he is not the same. he says that he is unhappy with me. he has also said that he dont love me anymore. and that really kills me. he dont want me to touch him, we dont go anywhere together and he is always having to go somewhere and he stays out all night or he stays out until 3:00am. he dont say where he is because i dont ask. i want to know but i feel me asking is saying to him that he cant have time to himself. i have asked him if he is cheating he says no. i have asked if he wanted a devorce being that we cant talk and he dont love me and he says "i dont know" . i dont know what to do if my marriage is just haveing a big bum or if it is really over.does anyone have a ideal of what i can do. i love him so much that i dont want to lose him. someone please help.

What is going on here?

Tammy — Mon, 04 Feb 2008 05:51:13 GMT

Last March, I went to a 40th birthday party for a family member. One of his family friends was in attendence. He introduced himself to me. Needless to say that later, my cousin told me that he was a really shy person and that she was surprised that he spoke to me.

A week later, my cousin called me and said that "he" called and wanted to take me on a date. So, he called me and we agreed to go on a date. He was very nice and have a lot of respect for me. We had a great time. We continued to see each other exclusively for about 5 months. We did a lot together, saw eachother almost every day. Then all of a sudden...he started to back away. He said things were going too fast. Up til this point, he told me that he loved me...now he won't say that any more. We eventually broke up because I can't stand childish tactics.

Several months later, we ran into each other...he ended up going to a wedding w/ me. We had a great time and we spent time together for a week or two. Then he backed away from me again...What is up with him?

He must have a issue with commitment. Why can't people just be upfront and tell you what's what!

Any comments???